For individuals and partners

AASAT (American association of sex addiction therapy)

Dr Fai is one of the few pornography and sexual addiction therapist in Queensland, who has the expertise and credentials in dealing with an individual’s pornography and sexual addiction, as well as their partners.

The discovery of sex addiction, porn addiction or infidelity in a committed relationship are devastating.  It can be a massive shock for the hurt partner who very was unaware of what their partner was doing.  The addicted partner (sex addict) / infidel can be overwhelmed with fear and shame that their hidden sexual behaviour has been discovered.  The couple will have a hundred questions on what to do next and if their relationship can survive the pain and trauma of betrayal.

Porn addiction is a type of sex addiction but sometimes has very different roots to other forms of sex addiction – especially for younger people who have grown up with easy access to Internet porn.

Many people are unaware of their dependency on porn until it escalates to the point of impacting other areas of life and relationships, friendships, education or work. Or when they no longer are able to get an erection without using pornography and sex with a partner no longer holds any appeal. For some people the escalation turns  into cybersex, hook ups and visiting sex workers.

What Are the Different Types of Sexual Addictions?

There are no distinct categories, but sexual addictions can come in different forms, including addiction to:

• Pornography.
• Prostitution.
• Masturbation or fantasy.
• Sadistic or masochistic behaviour.
• Exhibition/Voyeurism.
• Other excessive sexual pursuits.

Sex addiction is present when

• You feel powerless over how you act sexually.
• Your sexual choices are making your life unmanageable.
• You feel shame, embarrassment or even self-loathing over your sexual acts.
• You promise yourself you’ll change, but fail to keep those promises.
• You’re so preoccupied with sex it becomes like a ritual to you.

Partners’ trauma

Trauma or PTSD can be caused by a partner’s infidelity/betrayal to their significant other. This is a real trauma and have severe negative consequences the betrayed partner’s life as well as destruction of trust. This type of trauma can have physical, psychological and relational consequences for the hurt partner and manifest in different ways. The hurt partner may display depression, decreased self-esteem, eating disorder, general mistrust, feeling rejected or abandoned or at times attempt to isolate. We can help you heal from trauma and PTSD and give you the resources to recover.

House of Hope  counselling services are focused on enhancing relationships, healing from sexual addiction/infidelity and the healing of partners. House of Hope also provides relationship, marriage, family other types of counselling. Our services include tailored counselling sessions for individuals, couples, spouses or partners, teenagers, families. 

Empowerment and transformational change

We support the couples navigate through marital challenges, infidelity, the critical phases of disclosure concerning unhealthy sexual behaviours and assist them moving into the process of recovery and rebuild relational trust. At House of Hope we help partners work through their loss and grief, understand their emotions and the behaviour.

These courses are both practical and educational and provide understanding of 

biological and psychological causes of addiction

Recognising and managing triggers

Establishing relapse prevention strategies to secure and maintain recovery

Developing long term strategies for re-establishing a positive sexual lifestyle

Empowerment and transformational change

Helping the individuals to get unstuck

Emotional regulation

More.

Women’s group and men’s group are separated and courses are consists of 8 x 1.5-hour sessions and includes practical work.  Attendance at each of the sessions is required and the course is strictly limited to 5-8 individuals.  All attendees are required to sign a confidentiality statement to ensure the group is a safe space for all.

Intensive therapy

We offer three and five days intensives therapy to help individuals and couples navigate through the challenging stages in their relationship.

If you are struggling with marital problems, infidelity, pornography /sex addiction, loss and grief, trauma or relational difficulties, House of Hope can help. 

Our marathon/intensive sessions can give you hope and structure to a clear recovery path. During the marathon therapy you will be given practical resources to use in order to heal and unstuck yourself.

House of Hope also runs small and confidential online and face to face group counselling and workshops for women’s group (partners of pornography/sex , love addicts and women who have experienced infidelity) and Men’s group (Pornography/sex and love addicts).

These courses are both practical and educational and provide understanding of:

• Biological and psychological causes of addiction
• Recognising and managing triggers
• Establishing relapse prevention strategies to secure and maintain recovery
• Developing long term strategies for re-establishing a positive sexual lifestyle
• Empowerment and transformational change
• Helping the individuals to get unstuck
• Emotional regulation More.

Women’s group and men’s group are separated and courses are consists of 8 x 1.5-hour sessions and includes practical work.  Attendance at each of the sessions is required and the course is strictly limited to 5-8 individuals.  All attendees are required to sign a confidentiality statement to ensure the group is a safe space for all.

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